Saturday, April 30, 2011

Adoption Brought Us Closer

Well, after all of these big decisions, we were officially a "waiting family." With the help of loving friends and family, we created a portfolio (scrapbook) for birthfamilies to look through. This was an interesting experience because there was a page in our portfolio where I had to describe my husband and he had to describe me. Seems like an easy task, right?

Well, I thought it was when I whipped out a couple of paragraphs highlighting his compassion, gentleness, and never-ending patience, (not to mention his good looks). But then, I was brokenhearted when it seemed like my husband was avoiding the task of writing about me. He would sit down at the computer and then "find" other things to occupy his time; meanwhile, his paragraph about me and why I would make a great mother was never getting completed.

I finally broke down and asked why he didn't love me and didn't think I would be a great mom. He was shocked at my random outburst. (For those of you that really know me, you understand that I am not an extremely emotional person. I am pretty matter-of-fact and practical.) He explained to me that it was hard for him to narrow down all he wanted to say about me. The section I gave him wasn't big enough to include everything so he wanted to take his time and make sure he picked only the most important qualities -- the qualities a birthmother would look at and appreciate in an adoptive mother for her child.

How silly of me to doubt him! What a guy I married! His response did make me take a second glance at my paragraphs.

In good time, my husband finished his paragraphs about me and they were very eloquently written. This was a great experience and I highly recommend trying it with your spouse even if you are not in the adoption process. It is a great reminder to yourself and your other half about how/why you are perfect for one another.


  1. I remember that "job" Steve was supposed to do. He basically told me what to write for him. He knows what he wants to say but he isn't fond of writing unless it is math equations!

  2. LOL! That was his original suggestion to me. I think we all know how that turned out for him! :)